DON’T START YOUR LOVE LIKE LAILA AND MAJNON

Majnon said:
“I hope to be like two lovers of gazelles and live in a far desert so that none sees us. Or like two lovers of pigeon which live alone in a nest. Or like two whales which live alone at the bottom of the sea”.

Love is a sentiment of the heart and stems from psychological feelings reaching from a man whose heart relates with another relation e.g the relation with religion, family, kinship, and friend. Affection, mercy, loyalty, and sympathy strengthen this relation. Through this type, believers come to love each other, parent love their children, a husband loves his wife, a person loves his relatives, friends love each other and else.

Islam , with its magnanimity and realism, does not forbid poetry, but it does prohibit obscene poetry i.e that which praises or ridicules, describes the charms and physical beauty of women, obscene words of love to women that excite, urge and motivate lust. Disorder and upset afflicted their feelings and emotions. They have wasted their time and they committed sins and spoke obscene language.

Majnon said:
They asked, would you like to leave her? I replied, I would not. As a love is implanted in my heart for a long time and will remain forever. Even if my enemies blame me, I will never leave her. Laila’s family afflicted me with a disease, which cannot be remedied by any doctor but Laila love. They show affection when they see me; they conceal hate because of my love for Laila. If they prevent me to see her, they cannot prevent my love. If they prevent me to talk with her, they cannot prevent my sadness nor saying love poems. Blamers blame me for that because they did not fall in love.

WHAT A CHASTE LOVE

Islam regards this type of love as a noble and sublime feeling. However, it occupies a second rank after the love of Allah and His Messenger, because there is no other love equivalent to that of Allah, His Messenger and striving in His way which is holds great status and honour in the sight of Allah.

So, love is necessary to achieve the interests of individuals and societies. It is not strange to find that Islamic teachings strengthen the love of parent to their children, the love of husband to his wife and the love of a man to his friends, relatives and mankind in general.

“O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you know one another. Verily, the most honourable of you with Allah is that (believer) who has at-Taqwa (i.e he is one of the Muttaqin (the pious) – al-Hujurat: 13

So that, true believers should avoid the foregoing, since it falls under the heading of ‘obscene love’ and also should always search for the higher, more dignified lever of love. If he avoids falling into sin, he will be favoured, of the Prophets, the one constantly sincere, the martyrs, and the righteous. For the end, don’t start your love like Laila and Majnon because their love filled with emotional disorder and imbalanced feelings, also they damaged their ability to develop their own humanity.

Ibn ‘Abbas reported that Allah’s Messenger p.b.u.h said: “The strongest faith is to be sincere for the sake of Allah, to hate for the sake of Allah, to love for the sake of Allah, and to discard for the sake of Allah”. ;)

Reference: Islam and Love by ‘Abdullah Nasih ‘Ulwan